Mar 13 2009

Perfectionism, a Fatal Flaw in a Challenge!

Tag: Fitness — Mike @ 6:55 am

The following is a rerun from a blog on the Body for Life website. It was published on 9/18/07 and if you have time you should read the reader comments. They are actually better than the blog itself. Here’s a link to the original blogsite. You will have to navigate on your own to get the comments at the end of the 9/18/07 blog: http://bodyforlife.com/community/blog.asp?author=mharris&apL=4

 

If I called you a perfectionist, would you smile? I hope not, because it is anything but a compliment!See, I view perfectionism as the single biggest character flaw there is to a successful challenge. A character flaw is a way of behaving that has become ingrained and second nature, and which almost always leads to adverse consequences to the person who has it. They often appear to the person as an asset rather than a flaw, and that is another reason that they are very difficult to eradicate.

In the real world of Body for Life, here is how perfectionism usually operates. The person decides that he or she has “had it,” that they are going to renounce their current way of living, lose X number of pounds, and get and stay in shape forever. They buy the book; read it carefully; make tremendous preparations just as recommended in the book; plan all their meals and workouts; do all their shopping, and begin in earnest early on a Monday morning. Within a week, they will miss a workout, or grab an unauthorized food and wolf it down, or encounter some personal crisis which suddenly attracts all their attention, and BANG, just like that, their challenge grinds to a complete halt. Then, they resolve to start over and do it again perfectly.

See, the reason that the perfectionism is such a fatal flaw is that it always makes you quit, and never allows for a mistake that can be a teaching moment. Yet, the person who has it just doesn’t see this. They think of themselves as victimized by the temporary failure, and they see “do overs” as just part of the way of achieving the perfect result. There’s no such thing! And the end result of the perfectionist is always the same–they quit! In the end, they are usually much worse off than they were when they started.

How do you beat perfectionism? Well, in a way, it is like a cockroach–it doesn’t like the light! So, admit it to yourself, and put the light of truth on what you are doing, and your ridiculous way of behaving will become evident to you. The wall of denial will crack, and you’ll be able to accept less than perfect, and to get on with your life in an oderly manner. The second thing you can do is to realize that it is far more important to keep your self-promises than it is to do anything perfectly, because breaking promises to yourself causes a complete lack of self-confidence in due time.

Next time we’ll talk about how to maintain a transformation. Until then, have a great day, and do it well, not perfectly!